Posted by Sarah Jean on June 29, 19100 at 18:30:39:
In Reply to: How do I cope? posted by Tiffany on June 29, 19100 at 16:27:06:
: I know that I message alot, but I do appreciate all of your support. I am not sure I can make it through another month. Tommorrow my husband turns 26... I know that the only thing he really wants is to be a father, but he won't say how hard this is on him. I am so crampy and tired and hungry all the time, and sometimes I even feel a little nauseated. Why does the body always want you to think that you are pregnant by giving you symptoms? It only makes things more difficult. I want to hope but I don't think I can handle my hopes being dashed another month. I am afraid that I am not going to make it through this cycle very well. Everyday I hope that I will feel a little bit different in hopes of thinking I may be pregnant. It seems that the days are dragging on and I am not sure if I can make to the next week. I have had such severe cramps since the two days after ovulation, and have been even more tired than I have in along time. I wish I could know the outcome... I wish that I knew what was to be... What agony it is. Am I overdramatic to even think that I could be? I am afraid to hope, everytime that I think I am, I'm devastated and have to face another month. How do I cope?
Tiffany, I just found this message board a couple of days ago, and the responses that I received from people helped me tremendously.
I'm just learning how to cope myself, with the disappointment of negative B-HCG's and the fear of new and additional injectable
medications, and the fear of other procedures, etc. But what I think you and I and any woman who is going through an ordeal as trying as overcoming IF must do is find whatever it is
that will distract/relax her and allow her to "escape" from all of this, even if temporarily. I found that just going to the gym for an hour this arfternoon helped me to develop a new attitude.
I don't know if you like to work out or read or watch movies. I think I'm going to get a pedicure tomorrow; that always relaxes me. And I definitely find sharing experiences with the women who communicate through this message board
very helpful. Try and find some way to "pamper" yourself and make yourself feel good, and try to keep in mind that you must have more strength and coping skills than you give yourself credit for or you wouldn't have
gotten this far. I really respect the women who put themselves through month after month of these treatments; it's harder to keep doing this to our bodies, if there's a chance, than to quit and accept IF.
Maybe you should have more faith in yourself. And as to the hoping ... you have to hope, we all do. We have to believe this is going to work.
"Cautious optimism" is a popular phrase, but you have to be a bit optimistic, because after suffering the disappointments,
hopefully you'll achieve your goal of pregnancy!
I wish you luck and success and happiness!