Adoption as an option

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Posted by Anonymous on June 07, 19100 at 03:15:50:

I am wondering how any of you feel about this...
I feel that I want to give birth, but really in the end all I want is a baby. How do you know when to "give up" on giving birth to a child and to move on to adoption? Some nights I lie awake and think that adoption would be "easier" because I wouldn't have to go through anything physically anymore. I am very tired. I know emotionally, adoption would be hard, but at least it is only emotional and not physical AND emotional like surgery and IVF, etc. Fertility treatments suck!
So, I guess after all this rambling, what I really want to know is, am I selfish for wanting to carry a baby inside me? Am I selfish for not giving that up and still trying to do that? When should I move on to the next step (at least our next step) adoption? If we adopt, will I always look back and wish that I had tried one more cycle?
Signed sincerely,

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