Posted by Theresa on June 29, 19100 at 11:05:57:
In Reply to: The grass is not greener posted by lisa on June 28, 19100 at 21:01:35:
more true and empathetic. I have to say I found Cindi's post annoying. How about the sleepless nights worrying about IF and what to do if the next IVF cycle doesn't work out? Last weekend my dh and I went to the park, until he wanted to leave because it was too painful for him to see a Dad hugging his 2-year old daughter. We do agree with everyone that its important to enjoy things that we can and I think this is an great stress reliever, and we can't obsess about IF all the time.
But, the problem with this diagnosis is that it often is a long-term problem and the outcome is uncertain. If Cindi can tell me I'm going to have my own baby then I'll really enjoy myself and drink lots of wine and not worry about a thing!!! But, she can't and no-one can.
Theresa
: I also have a beautiful baby after numerous IVF cycles. This is the reason I believe I am a more patient mother and never for one second wish I was with friends, working or sleeping rather than being his mother. This is something that all my friends who have experienced infertility relate to, we all feel so fortunate to have our miracles and don't miss anything about the time before. When times get rough, we just remind ourselves of the alternative and all of a sudden things get easier.
: This is not to say that you shouldn't try to enjoy your time while trying to have your baby. The reason this time is so important to enjoy, is that it will hopefully relieve some of the stress of infertility if you can enjoy some precious time with your mate.
: The grass is definately not greener.