Posted by Theresa on June 19, 19100 at 16:30:17:
In Reply to: Thanks for those tips - I survived the baby shower! posted by Kathy on June 19, 19100 at 12:41:27:
Very glad to hear how well it went. It sounded like a very special day for everyone involved.
I think it is useful to try to destress by imagining positive scenarios rather than working ourselves up over stuff that hasn't even happened!! But I don't think you seem at all negative or lacking in character. You seemed to be doing something very sensible in preparing for possible problems -- of course I find that when you're prepared what you fear generally doesn't happen.
I also think we are all very, very brave to keep going through all this stress, all this disappointment, all this grief and loss.
All the best,
Theresa
: Thanks for all for your responses to my earlier post.
: The shower was a nice family affair, and was attended
: by the real 'guest of honor' -- my sister-in-law's newly
: adopted son.
: The hardest part of the event was by far listening to
: all these women trade parenting stories. Fortunately,
: no one put me in a defensive position by questioning
: when we'll have kids, so I was able to hold my tongue
: (at least until the family affair!). Perhaps I
: underestimated the people I surround myself with. In
: any case, I sometimes feel like this whole infertility
: thing is a test of character -- and I'm failing
: miserably. There has to be a way to turn this negative
: energy & anger into something positive...
: Sorry for rambling -- thanks again for everyone's support!
:
: p.s. Good luck Leslie - we're all pulling for you!