Re: Feeling Lost

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Posted by anonymous on June 16, 19100 at 11:14:24:

In Reply to: Feeling Lost posted by Sumita on June 14, 19100 at 16:15:01:

Hi Sumita,
First I want to say that I completely respect Alka's point of view. Adoption is not for everyone, and each person has to decide for themselves.

On the other hand, I don't want you to be discouraged about adopting. There are wonderful children in India who have great potential, but are just unlucky enough to be born into poverty. They come here and thrive. I know because I have a close friend who adopted. She has a beautiful, loving 5 year old daughter and doesn't regret for a moment having adopted from India (she is Indian, as am I).

My husband and I were lucky enough to get pregnant after IVF but adoption has always been a viable option for us and will still be if we decide to have another and have difficulty.

While I think because of your age you are likely to eventually conceive, I think you would be missing out if you didn't keep an open mind about adopting.

Hi everyone,
: I have just turned 32 and have been trying to get pregnant for 10 years, 6 months Clomid, 6 months Ovulation Induction,
: 2 failed IVF's, 1 with ICSII. I am hoping to do one more IVF cycle -- this time in Denver with Schoolcraft.
: I live in Vancouver, Canada, and do not have a lot of choices here.
: I achieved a pregnancy on my 2nd Ovulation Induction 5 years ago, nothing since then. Even my last
: IVF was dismal. I produced only 2 eggs. Sometimes I feel as if my Marriage is falling apart.
: Actually, I feel that way a lot of the time. I am East Indian and although I no longer feel the family
: pressure, I still feel that I am not enough for my husband and his family.
: I feel disappointed in life, I feel my girlfriends who never wanted children now have children. I feel
: as if I am being punished and I don't know where to turn. My husband is tired of trying. I am tired too.
: But I feel I have to push myself and keep trying so that when I turn 40 I can say, Yes I did try everything.
: Does anyone else feel this way? I have gone to so many therapists, so many specialists but the bottom line
: is I am unhappy and nothing anyone can say or point out is going to change that. I am tired of focussing on
: a career that I do not really want. I just want to stay home with a couple of kids and bake cookies and
: make contruction paper hats. I just think is that too much to ask for. Nothing makes me happy. I never
: felt this down before where nothing helps. This is my first time on this chat line or whatever it is called
: and I am not sure if all I am doing is depressing everyone else.

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