Posted by Jan on May 18, 19100 at 09:00:51:
In Reply to: Another blow - I was doing better but... posted by Martha G on May 17, 19100 at 09:49:56:
: This morning, my assistant of 12 years at work told me that his wife is expecting. They have been married for 5 years; she is 37. The hardest part is that she is about 6 weeks pg and conceived about the same time I should have if this last and final cycle had been successful. On top of it all, he has twins in his family (he is one) and she took Clomid! And, she is a serious paranoid manic depressive and on medication all the time; he didn't want to have children but she prevailed. I was able to get thru recent days without crying and now this. I just don't know what to do. I am so jealous, although I am happy for them, it is another case of things being so incredibly unfair. Thanks for listening and your advice. Martha G
Hi Martha, I have been reading your posts. I hope that you are feeling better. I too have felt that it is so unfair how other people get pregnant so easily. I remember one time, a while ago, I was waiting in line at a restaurant and a woman with a baby and her mother cut in front of me. I didn't say anything, and she made some comment in a real condecending voice that she couldn't wait in line "because of the baby". It was no big deal of course...but it just reminded me of how Life is so unfair and this just reinforced my feelings that sometimes the most immature and selfish people get preganant and those of us who work hard, try to help other people etc just get the worst end of the deal. I can't make sense of it either. You sound like a wonderful, kind, generous and special person. I wish that I could wave a magic wand and somehow make it better for you. No one knows the wrenching emotional struggle that people with infertility go through until they have been there. I wish you the peace and joy that you deserve. PS IF you need an ear to vent...let me know and I will give you my email address.