Posted by theresa on May 16, 19100 at 15:24:44:
In Reply to: All I want to do is cry today posted by Sara on May 16, 19100 at 14:37:44:
Sara - this is a very isolating and emotionally profound experience. Sadly, very few people who haven't experienced it seem to understand the depth of pain it causes. I found getting into a support group very helpful for this, and to read and write stuff on this board. For me venting is the only way through. I also just spent a very relaxing 4 days away and I didn't see one baby or pregnant woman. It was such a nice break!!! There are continual reminders all around us so we have to protect ourselves as much as we can. That can mean avoiding baby showers, or at least minimizing how long we spend at them. Which is often where the 'when are you going to have children' question comes up.
There are also some good books out there that describe how to cope with emotional side of infertility.
I hope you feel better today, and wish you the very best.
Theresa
ps My husband also gets very stressed with all the testing.
: I've been reading your board and posting questions occasionally but all of sudden I feel like I can't make it through today. Either all my friends are pregnant, telling me that they're pregnant or have infants at home. My sister just had her sixth last week and I keep anticipating comments from everyone and anyone about me and why we're not having any. When will they stop asking. We've been trying for 15 months now and just discovered that my husbands sperm count is really low. He's in the middle of the testing stages and he's going a little crazy from the stress. At home I feel like I have to be the OK him because if I'm down at all he gets emotional on me and tells me that he's ruined my life. If I talk to my mom about all this stuff she says so you'll adopt hoping that it'll make me feel better (it doesn't). My father just yells at me telling that I have no right to feel sorry for myself and to keep the faith. I feel like I can't win. I don't want to feel miserable like this but when I do I just wish I could get a little sympathy without feeling bad about needing it. I know they all mean well but it hurts. I feel like this is going to be a never ending battle and technically we haven't even started to fight. I'm sorry for going on like this I just felt like talking to people who could relate. Thanks for Listening.