Re: Wow..I had a really good night tonight..(something positive)

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Posted by on April 30, 19100 at 10:16:04:

In Reply to: Wow..I had a really good night tonight..(something positive) posted by Leslie on April 27, 19100 at 22:36:09:

: I turned 30 today. About a month ago, I started to get really depressed about know..turning 30, no children, blah, blah, blah. I had always thought I would have like 3 or 4 kids by the time I was 30. For my birthday, I told everyone that I just wanted them to forget that it was my birthday. Well, my friends did not give me what I had asked for. Tonight, my friends bought me dinner and ice cream cake. I got flowers delivered to me at work. I got more flowers when I arrived for dinner. My husband baked me a cake last weekend so we could celebrate my birthday with my family visiting. I had a really good time. I had a really good birthday. Right now, I am feeling very lucky and I just wanted to share it. I started reading the book, Adopting After Infertility, and there was a section in the first chapter that discussed how difficult it is to be a friend or a family memeber of someone who is going through infertility. It helped me to take a closer look at myself. For the past 2 years, I have not exactly been a lot of laughs to be around. I get very angry when my friends say something that I consider stupid and insensitive, but I don't often recognize it when they are being very sensitive. For example, my friend and I stopped in the hospital to visit another friend who had just had a baby. I wasn't going to go, but my other friend convinced me. Afterwards, she kept telling me what a good job that I did. At the time, I didn't even notice what she was saying to me, but she totally recognized how hard it was for me and was trying to comfort me and tell me that she was proud of me. I never even thanked her for that but boy am I quick to let her know when she hurts my feelings. I need to recognize the positive things more even though there are still some people in my life that I can't help but be mad at. Anyhow..I just wanted to share all of that. Good night. Leslie

Hi Leslie!

I just wanted to wish you a Happy Birthday. I didn't even know that your birthday was coming up. I read all the positive things that you mentioned. I'm glad that you had a great time with your friends. I've been thinking about a friend of mine that I got angry about because she invited me to her daughter's first birthday party. I don't think that I handled the situation very well. She knew that I didn't want to see her until I started a family. I thought it was insensitive of her to invite me to the birthday party. I called her and told her that my husband and I didn't want to be invited anybody's baby shower or their children's birthday parties. I didn't go ahead and send her daughter a birthday gift, I feel bad about that. If it was her, I know that she would get angry too. She got a little ticked off because I invited her to do something with my husband and I before she knew or met her husband. How would you have handled it. We haven't spoken to each other since February. I don't know how to handle the situation. She is not calling me and I don't want to give in and call her because I think she'll get nasty on the phone. Well I'll talk to you soon. We still have to make plans. Talk to you soon.

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