Re: bad news- need support

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Posted by on May 22, 19100 at 06:47:19:

In Reply to: bad news- need support posted by allie on May 20, 19100 at 22:43:09:

Sometimes I don't know what to say. Your post really caught me off-guard. It truly seems unfair when "bad things happen to good people." In fact there is a wonederful book with that title that you and your husband should read. For now, first wait for a test which can confirm or disprove the first one. If it is confirmed, take advantage of the counseling that will be offered to you. Today many people live long and healthy lives in spite of HIV. We can't cure it yet, but we are much further along in controlling it. I have cared for women who were HIV positive and wanted to become pregnant. The babies that were born as a result were ot affected by the HIV. There is a recent review on treating HIV couples for infertility posted on Medscape.

Good luck, I know the thoughts of many are with you.

Dr. Barad

: I was scheduled to begin my IVF cycle this month but yesterday
: my OB called and asked to see my husand and I. 2 weeks ago we had
: what we thought would be just routing, blood tests including
: HIV. Since we have been together for 7 years and I know
: he has not been screwing around on me, we felt
: find having these tests done because we knew that they
: would come back negative. When we went in today, the doctor
: said that all of my tests were negative but his HIV test
: came back positive. He became extremely upset because he
: hads not been doing anything wrong and had only had 2 other partners
: prior to me and they do not have this- and we cant figure
: why this happened. Of course he had an immediate retest
: today but needless to say we are devastated. I guess I am just
: trying to cope with the fact that I guess having a child is
: out and there is a real life threat to my husband and that
: it cant be long until my HIV test will come back negative
: because of his status. My ob said I could probably do the IVF
: with donar sperm but right now I am too upset to even think
: about that- what started our as an exciting chance to have
: a child has now turned into a terrorizing nightmare.
: guess I justed needed to vent- thanks for having this forum
: for me to come to.

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