Re: bad news- need support

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Posted by cathy on May 21, 19100 at 20:58:36:

In Reply to: bad news- need support posted by allie on May 20, 19100 at 22:43:09:


I second what everyone has written; hopefully
the next test will provide different results.

I know it may be too soon to think about this
but I read an article in the Washington Post (I
think)several months ago about couples in which
the man was HIV positive, and they safely and
successfully had ivf done with his sperm,
after it was "washed." The couples
they featured realized they had many years
together and decided to go for it. Just wanted
you to know there may be other options out there.

I hope and pray this turns out ok for you.


: I was scheduled to begin my IVF cycle this month but yesterday
: my OB called and asked to see my husand and I. 2 weeks ago we had
: what we thought would be just routing, blood tests including
: HIV. Since we have been together for 7 years and I know
: he has not been screwing around on me, we felt
: find having these tests done because we knew that they
: would come back negative. When we went in today, the doctor
: said that all of my tests were negative but his HIV test
: came back positive. He became extremely upset because he
: hads not been doing anything wrong and had only had 2 other partners
: prior to me and they do not have this- and we cant figure
: why this happened. Of course he had an immediate retest
: today but needless to say we are devastated. I guess I am just
: trying to cope with the fact that I guess having a child is
: out and there is a real life threat to my husband and that
: it cant be long until my HIV test will come back negative
: because of his status. My ob said I could probably do the IVF
: with donar sperm but right now I am too upset to even think
: about that- what started our as an exciting chance to have
: a child has now turned into a terrorizing nightmare.
: guess I justed needed to vent- thanks for having this forum
: for me to come to.

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