Posted by on May 20, 19100 at 23:10:49:
In Reply to: bad news- need support posted by allie on May 20, 19100 at 22:43:09:
: I was scheduled to begin my IVF cycle this month but yesterday
: my OB called and asked to see my husand and I. 2 weeks ago we had
: what we thought would be just routing, blood tests including
: HIV. Since we have been together for 7 years and I know
: he has not been screwing around on me, we felt
: find having these tests done because we knew that they
: would come back negative. When we went in today, the doctor
: said that all of my tests were negative but his HIV test
: came back positive. He became extremely upset because he
: hads not been doing anything wrong and had only had 2 other partners
: prior to me and they do not have this- and we cant figure
: why this happened. Of course he had an immediate retest
: today but needless to say we are devastated. I guess I am just
: trying to cope with the fact that I guess having a child is
: out and there is a real life threat to my husband and that
: it cant be long until my HIV test will come back negative
: because of his status. My ob said I could probably do the IVF
: with donar sperm but right now I am too upset to even think
: about that- what started our as an exciting chance to have
: a child has now turned into a terrorizing nightmare.
: guess I justed needed to vent- thanks for having this forum
: for me to come to.
Dear Allie, I'm glad that you were able to share this news with our board. It is hard to imagine how devestating this truly must be to you. I'm praying hard for the results of that retest to be negative. It would seem impossible, if it were me, to try to sort through the feelings involved with donor sperm while having to adjust to this incredibly disturbing news. I know that putting having a baby on the back burner probably feels even more painful, but you really do need to be as healthy, emotionally and otherwise, as you possibly can be to conceive a child. How long will it take to get the results of this new test? Maybe you can at least wait until you know for sure and take this one step at a time. Everyone on this board is hoping and praying that your news comes back negative for this HIV test. Then we can start hoping and praying that it can come back positive for a pregnancy test. My best wishes, Lisa Rosenthal