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Posted by on July 06, 19100 at 00:28:13:

In Reply to: Re: 46 AND STILL HOPEFUL - A DOCTOR'S ADVICE, PLS posted by Carol on July 06, 19100 at 00:10:05:

:Obviously I don't really know what I'm doing. I just found this by chance. I am also 46 and trying to get pregnant. I have been through the pergonal and gonal F. I just found out this last weekend it didn't work again. We had decided this would be our last try, but now I am having second thoughts. It is so hard to give up. My husband is 31 and does not have kids. I have kids by a previous marriage. My husband is such a good dad to them and I would give anything to have a baby with him. I is very hard emotionally not to mention financially. I will probably check further into donor egg, although my doctor discouraged it because he said there was no reason I shouldn't be able to do this on my own. I am totally healthy and produce healthy eggs. Sorry I am rambling. Hope you get this message, and don't give up. My thoughts are with you : : Janna: Thanks for your advice. I was pregnant in my early 20s, during my first marriage, but had a miscarriage. I didn't marry again till years later. My husband has a low sperm count, but my tubes are open, my uterus is normal, and I am healthy and young-looking. The major problem is my age, because as we all know, the genetic quality and viability of our eggs diminish as we age. What "option" would you (and/or a doctor who might respond to this post) suggest that would maximize my chances? My doctor thinks that IVF would be too much of an expense for something that is not a sure thing. But, I suppose that the first step is to see if/or how many eggs I produce and make a decision then. I know I would make a wonderful mother, but I do recognize the "reality" of this all. Thanks for your good wishes.

: : : : As gently as I can say it, I think you should listen to your doctor's honesty. Women who conceive at your age are extremely, extremely rare, and usually have shown heightened fertility throughout their lives. Perhaps consider spending your money on an option that has a chance of working. I know its painful, and I wish you good luck on your journey.

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