Posted by Carolyn Berger on August 11, 19100 at 14:53:02:
In Reply to: Re: Are there any other lurkers out there considering adoption? posted by Carolyn Berger on August 11, 19100 at 14:41:24:
: : Let's get this board active!!! Come on out..introduce yourselves!! What is your story? I'll go first.
: : I'm Leslie. I'm 30. I have endometriosis, PCOS, and my FSH tends to the elevated side. In approx. 37 more days, I will be doing my last cycle of injectibles/IUI. If it doesn't work, I want to move on to adoption. I have spent 4 years of my life obsessing about wanting to be pregnant and wanting a baby. Those years that I was so sad, I will never be able to get back. So rather than putting any more into it, I want to move on. I want my life back and I am going to add a baby to my life!
: : I'm depressed, sad, angry, scared, hopeful, happy, and excited about all of this. So, I'm all over the map. It would be great to have some people to go through this with, so come on out and let's get an active board for us, if you are out there!!
: : Geez...I hope that I am not talking to myself!
: : Leslie
Dear Leslie,
No, you aren't talking to yourself!! You sound
like you are just about to turn the corner from
infertility treatment to adoption. Of course you
have lots of conflicting feelings! I went through
what you are going through. I got started on
adoption while feeling all the feelings you are
feeling. As a matter of fact, I started doing
yoga every day at that point just to keep myself
balanced. Very gradually, though, I stopped feeling so sad and scared, and began feeling happier and more excited. Why? Because I had
made a decision, and I was determined to succeed.
Unlike with medical treatment, determination can
absolutely tip the scales in your favor. If you
persevere, you will adopt! You will have a baby!
The second thing that helped me feel more hopeful
and positive about adoption related to my conversations on the phone with birthmothers. They were generally positive, and I understood that they, too, had their backs up against the
wall. Adoption became a way for the birthmom and
me to help each other. And so it went. Be scared,
it's only natural. But keep putting one foot in
front of the other. You have already lived through 4 years of infertility, so we know you
have guts aplenty! You can do adoption. You
really can.